Photo Credit: Cathal Harnett Photography
Valentine’s day is around the corner, you either love it or you hate it. Feelings of inadequacy if your alone, feelings of inadequacy if your in a relationship (i.e. when the other half has clearly forgotten despite your various hints all month and arrives with Tesco a card & the last bunch of flowers at the end of the day, I mean you really are worth more aren’t you).
Now don’t get me wrong, why shouldn’t such a thing as great as the big old L.O.V.E get it’s own day? The problem lies when we start placing our self-worth on the materialistic and the measure of value we put on somebody else’s effort to make us feel good. It’s time we change that.
I have teamed up with Argento & Olivia Burton to bring you my top tips on ‘how to self-love’.
-1. Let go of your expectations. This is easier said than done I know, but I’ve definitely realised more than even in the last year that people express their love in different ways. Take some time to appreciate what the loved ones in your life (romantic or platonic) do-do for you through-out the year rather then what they don’t do on one particular day. It makes moments that they do surprise you all the sweeter, I promise.
– 2. Share the love. Ok, so you might not recieve anything or be involved with Valentines Day this year but thats no excuse not to channel those feelings into making other halves or friends feel good about themselves. You get out of the universe what you put in right? Like attracts like! There is an immense satisfaction in making others feel thought of. If your single, get the gal’s together – watch a movie, eat some popcorn, drink some wine – it’ll be grand (and over before you know it)!
-3. If your soul purpose in life feels like it’s all about how to keep everyone in your life happy, STOP. Ultimately you can’t love anybody else properly if you can’t love yourself as you are, flaws and all. Self-love means putting your hopes & dreams first and what makes you happiest at the forefront of everybody else’s needs. Not in a necessarily selfish way, but in a way where theres room to compromise and grow. Accept the positivity in your life as a bonus, but don’t clamber for it from others. Fellow Irish youtuber Michelle Crossan recently created this short film which sums up my feelings – HERE.
-4. If you have a busy mind, a busy life you need to meditate. Force yourself! Watch a guided mediation youtube video or go to a really good mindful yoga class. Putting 15 minutes – hour aside a few times a week will 100% give your mind clarity & perspective – a certain ‘chill’ shall we say… There are many documented reasons on why meditation is so amazing for us, and yet I feel it’s one of the hardest things to do for yourself. Putting that time away in itself is a brilliant way to exercise self-love because your putting everything to one side to treat your mind to a well-deserved break. I guarantee almost all-aspects of your life will improve with a bit of consistent practice!
To end on a lighter note – I’ve been keeping track of my me-time with this beautiful pale pink & rose gold Olivia Burton watch from Argento that I picked out recently! I nearly always go for darkly coloured / masculine styles of watches so it’s been such a nice change to wear this pale pink one in a subtle shade with the same shape that I love in a good watch. I love how that slight contrast of colour sits with my go-to monochrome style. And how perfect was this Ismar Cirkinagic artwork exhibiting at The Mac gallery in Belfast! Admittedly taken on my last love-filled day in Northern Ireland.
*This post was kindly sponsored by Argento